Grief is our way of reacting when we lose someone important to us. There are five stages of grief. You may not experience the stages in order and it is completely normal to move back and forth between stages, or to skip stages.
This guide is to help you during your difficult time, so that you understand what you are feeling.
Blocking out reality at this stage:
What to do?Get involved in the practical matters after your loved one's passing. Be active in arranging the funeral and talk to those who come to pay their respects. Communicate with your other family members or friends as much as possible. You do not need to force yourself to be cheerful if you do not feel like it.
Blaming others or yourself for what happened at this stage:
What to do? Find out as much as you can about your loved one's death. Ask the doctor to explain to you again about your loved one's illness. Give yourself some time to accept what is happening.
Bargaining is known as the 'if only' stage:
What to do? For now, you can accept that this is a natural part of grief. Do not make any important decisions based on your feelings at this point. Just try to be patient and work through and understand the feelings. At this stage, it is important to communicate with your closest family and friends.
Feeling a great sense of sadness about everything stage:
What to do?Take time to grieve about your loved one. Spend some time remembering him/ her, and talk about good memories with your family and friends. You do not need to force yourself to cheer up, because it is normal to feel sad. Express your feelings to those closest to you.
You will come to accept what has happened at this stage.
What to do? Try to take more interest in everyday activities. This will help to replace some of the painful memories.
There is a difference between grief and depression. Depression can put you and your health at risk, especially in a long term.
If you experience any of the
symptoms of depression, see your doctor or visit a counsellor.
look for counsellors specialising in grief, loss and depression. Here are some available help:
It is important to learn to
care for yourself despite grieving. To learn about other mental wellness, click here.
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